英语励志演讲关于梦想（精选34篇）
Respect teacher, dear students: I am a number, today, the topic of my speech is "flying dreams".
Flying dream, light the hope. The eighteenth big attracted worldwide attention, now, everyone is talking about the Chinese dream, xi jinping, general secretary, said: "I think that, to achieve the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation, is the Chinese nation in modern times the greatest dream". The teacher gave us interpret this sentence said: "the Chinese dream is to realize the national prosperity, national rejuvenation, people's happiness." As a primary school student, I want to say that my "dream" is to become a great writer, like bing xin's grandmother to return parents with their patriotic enthusiasm, dedication to the motherland!
"Chinese dream" let me remember a celebrity once said: the happiest thing in the world, is to struggle for a noble ideal. Language lesson I learned on - as long as the dream through struggle, it may become a reality. Even if you don't succeed, I also don't regret, because, at least I tried, struggle.
In the third grade, weeks is project on Thursdays. It was my first time to write the real article, always fear to write in the heart is bad, will be criticized by the teacher, students will be a joke. According to the guidance of the teacher, I just want to clear through after school life. The teacher emphasized to highlight the word "wonderful". The more I think more difficult, I don't know how to show the "wonderful". Was particularly annoyed, I remember the teacher said: "the interesting plot, intense scenes, moving pictures, different name is wonderful." So I decided to write the last story competition.
In the article. Write me to the competition area, at the sight of the lively scene, was tense. Write this part I highlighted the psychological activity in particular. Then I wrote the game process, especially wrote my performance on the stage. Hands began to tremble, head of words don't obedient, hide, also can not find out, is really urgent person. Casual glance, I am a teacher in the audience smile raise me up, mother in the audience the thumbs-up sign, let me have the confidence, strange to say, those who hide and seek with me words, sentences active appeared, I speak story has special devotion, applause dropped, I overcome myself, finished the story, also won the second prize. In the paper, I also wrote a bring me the joy of leisure activity.
I put the paper for the first time, the teacher praised me to use a lot at ordinary times the accumulation of words, there are a lot of wonderful expression, said I was a young writer. I hear my became a little writer, thought from his great writer dream, close to the many. The heart indescribably happy.
"Without the continuous bitter cold, how have no rainbow had the eyes no tears", learning to let me see only study hard, will succeed. As long as is a game, I want to attend, exercise self in order to achieve my dream.
China is also a dream, I dream. China is day by day prosperous, the Chinese are day by day rich. If China is an ocean, I am a drop of water, only hundreds of millions of water droplets together, can become the sea. I want to fly dream, thousands of people to fly dream, China dream can be realized to fly over.
Fly, my dream! The Chinese dream, fly!
In the State of Zheng. There was a man who wanted to go into town to buy apair of new shoes.
郑国，有个人想去城里买一双新鞋子。
Before leaving home, he measured his foot with a piece of straw for size.After he arrived at the town and entered a shoe shop, he put his hand into hispocket only to find that in his haste he had left the measurement at home.Thereupon, he turned round and started for home. But when he rushed back to theshoeshop with the measurement, the shop had closed. As a result, he had suanwenwbusied himself for nothing.
他离家前先用一根稻草量了自己的脚，把他当作尺码。他到了城里，走进鞋店，伸手摸口袋，从发现因为急着赶路，把尺码忘在家里了。于是，他转身就往家里跑。可是等他拿着尺码赶回鞋店的时候，店已经关门了。结果，他白忙了一阵子，还是没有买到鞋子。
Later, someone asked him:” Were you buying shoes for yourself or forothers? ”
后来，有人问他：“你是给自己买鞋，还是给别人买鞋?”
He answered:” For myself.”
他回答说：“是给我自己。
Someone else asked him:” Don’t you have your feet on yourself? You needonly to Try on shoes with your feet to get the right size. Why did you go backhome to fetch the measurement? “
别人又问他：“脚不是长在你自己身上吗?英语小短文只要用你的脚去试试鞋子的大小，不就可以了吗?为什么还要回家去拿尺码呢?“
The man of Zheng insisted:” I would rather trust the measurement than myown feet.”
那个郑国人坚持说：“我宁愿相信尺码，也不相信自己的脚。“
Someone said “we are reading the first verse of the first chapter of a book, whose pages are infinite”.
I don’t know who wrote these words, but I’ve always liked them as a reminder that the future can be anything we want it to be. We are all in the position of the farmers. If we plant a good seed ,we reap a good harvest. If we plant nothing at all, we harvest nothing at all.
We are young. “How to spend the youth?” It is a meaningful question. To answer it, first I have to ask “what do you understand by the word youth?” Youth is not a time of life, it’s a state of mind. It’s not a matter of rosy cheeks, red lips or supple knees. It’s the matter of the will. It’s the freshness of the deep spring of life.
A poet said “To see a world in a grain of sand, and a heaven in a wild flower, hold infinity in the palm of your hand, and eternity in an hour. Several days ago.
Dream, it is a fantastic word! i like it! everyone has a dream, so do i. we can’t do anything without dream!
i like wild animals. tiger, elephant, panda, polar bear, koala and dolphin! they are so lovely! there are so many animals live in the wild! i like them!but many wild animals are facing the danger of extinction. for example, with the development of cities, their living areas have become narrower and narrower. many of the wild animals, now are confronted with food crisis. at the same time, man is killing them just for getting their fur, skin, teeth and meat.
protect them, protect our resources of ecology too. all of us should realize that the loss of any species is the loss of ourself. killing wild animals certain is prohibited. we should say “no!”to leather clothing. we should say “no!” to eat them. we should set up many national parks as wild life. let them live there, happy and safe.
wild animals and us are member of the planet!
To be or nor to be, that is a question. To succeed or to fail? How tosucceed and how to achieve? These problems confuse many teenagers innowadays.
We all have dreams, and we all work hard to realize them. But there willalways be some problems and setbacks to stop the pace of advance. When theyappear, what should we do? To stop or to go on? Mrs. Curie told us the answer.We all know that Mrs. Curie discovered radium, but how many people really knowhow hard she worked? At that time, there were many people disapprove of Mrs.Curie. Although she got over hundreds of difficulties, she still believed inherself and never gave up. Finally, she succeeded to discover radium. She provedthat she was right by her continuous hard work and her strong spirit. We shouldlearn from Mrs. Curie. She told us the truth through her own experiences thatbelieve in yourself, you can do it! Never give up, face the difficulties with asmile, someday, you will be proud of yourself.
The key to success is confidence. It makes you brave, helps you get overthe troubles, and brings motivation to you. For example, somebody always getnervous when they have an important speech, if they are in a nervous mood, theresults are always terrible. But if they are confident to themselves, theresults turn out to be better. Therefore, be confident, believe in yourself,keep smile in your face when comes to difficulties, and you will achievemore.
no young man believes he shall ever die. it was a saying of my brother's,and a fine one. there is a feeling of eternity in youth, which makes us amendfor everything. to be young is to be as one of the immortal gods. one half oftime indeed is flown-the other half remains in store for us with all itscountletreasures; for there is no line drawn, and we see no limit to our hopesand wishes. we make the coming age our own-
the vast, the unbounded prospect lies before us.
death. old age. are words without a meaning. that paby us like the idea airwhich we regard not. others may have undergone, or may still be liable tothem-we "bear a charmed life“, which laughs to scorn all such sickly fancies. asin setting out on delightful journey, we strain our eager gaze forward-
bidding the lovely scenes at distance hail!
and see no end to the landscape, new objects presenting themselves as weadvance; so, in the commencement of life, we set no bounds to our inclinations.nor to the unrestricted opportunities of gratifying them. we have as yet foundno obstacle, no disposition to flag; and it seems that we can go on so forever.we look round in a new world, full of life, and motion, and ceaseleprogress; andfeel in ourselves all the vigor and spirit to keep pace with it, and do notforesee from any present symptoms how we shall be left behind in the naturalcourse of things, decline into old age, and drop into the grave. it is thesimplicity, and as it were abstractedneof our feelings in youth, that (so tospeak) identifies us with nature, and (our experience being slight and ourpassions strong) deludes us into a belief of being immortal like it. ourshort-lives connection with existence we fondly flatter ourselves, is anindissoluble and lasting union-a honeymoon that knows neither coldness, jar, norseparation. as infants smile and sleep, we are rocked in the cradle of ourwayward fancies, and lulled into security by the roar of the universe aroundus0we quaff the cup of life with eager haste without draining it, instead ofwhich it only overflows the more-objects prearound us, filling the mind withtheir magnitude and with the strong of desires that wait upon them, so that wehave no room for the thoughts of death.
you will no longer fear making new sounds, showing new facial expressions, using your body in new ways,approaching new people, and asking new questions. you will live every single day of your life with absolute passion, and you will show your passion through the words you speak and the actions you take. you will focus all your time and effort on the most important goals of your life. you will never succumb to challenges of hardships. you will never waver in your pursuit of excellence. after all,you are the best, and you deserve the best!
as your coach and friend, i can assure you the door to all the best things in the world will open to you, but the key to that door is in your hand. you must do your part, you must faithfully follow the plans you make and take the actions you plan, you must never quit, you must never fear. i know you must do it, you can do it, you will do it, and you will succeed!
now stand firm and tall, make a fist, get excited, and yell it out: i must do it! i can do it! i will do it! i will succeed! i must do it! i can do it! i will do it! i will succeed! i must do it! i can do it! i will do it! i will succeed!
A boy found an eagle's egg and he put it in the nest of a prairiechicken.The eagle hatched and thought he was a chicken.He grew up doing whatprairie chicken do-scratching at the dirt for food and flying short distanceswith a noisy fluttering of wings.It was a dreary life.Gradually the eagle grewolder and bitter.One day he and his prairie chicken friend saw a beautiful birdsoaring on the currents of air,high above the mountains.
"Oh,I wish I could fly like that!" said the eagle.The chickenreplied,"Don't give it another thought.That's the mighty eagle,the king of allbirds-you could never be like him!" And the eagle didn't give it anotherthought.He went on cackling and complaining about life.He died thinking he was aprairie chicken.My friends,you too were born an eagle.The Creator intended youto be an eagle,so don’t listen to the prairie chickens!
一个小男孩发现了一只老鹰下的蛋,把它放进了一只山鸡的窝里.鹰被孵出来了,但他以为自己是一只山鸡.渐渐的他长大了,却做着山鸡所做的事---从泥土里寻找食物,做短距离的飞翔,翅膀还啪啪作响.生活非常沉闷,渐渐地鹰长大了,也越来越苦恼.有一天,他和他的山鸡朋友看见一只美丽的鸟在天空翱翔,飞的比山还高.
“哦,我要能飞的那么高该多好啊!”鹰说.山鸡回答说,“不要想了,那是凶猛无比的鹰,鸟中之王---你不可能像他一样!”于是鹰放弃了那个念头.他继续咯咯地叫,不停的抱怨生活.最后他死了,依然认为自己是一只山鸡.朋友们,你们天生就是雄鹰.造物主有意把你造就成一只雄鹰,所以不要听信山鸡的话!
This is a multiple choice questions, could you tell me: senior year, I usethe attitude of how to grow? Answer: happy, pessimistic, make public, positive,rebellious, forbear, stick to, give up and shake of hardship and struggle... Youmay meet the challenge in the storm, can also learn to strong and enduring infailure. No matter what your choice is, three high, this is the growth of astruggle process.
Mr Yu has been in the "win in China" issued a theory of the grass tree:"there are two kinds of people's way of life, the first is like grass alive:growing up again, you still grow up, people can tread you, won't produce thepain, because people itself didn't see you, so every one of us should grow likea tree. Even if we now are nothing, but as long as you have the tree seed, evenif you are stepped on earth the middle, you still can absorb soil nutrients. Youmaybe two years three older is not big, but a decade eight years twenty yearsyou can grow into towering trees. Tree, alive is a beautiful scenery, dead stillis pillars just. Living dead are useful." In three of this article is a bitbumpy road, we should all in everyone's heart with the seed of a tree.Regardless of wind and rain wet eyes or wind broken skin, should be stalked asteadfast head high to meet belong to high in the thorns. Then, we slowly have atree trunk, forceful and vigorous. Although there are some see rough arm scar,but was poured with envious eyes.
Perhaps, three journey, we can not long be great trees like Mr Yu said,but, as long as we always have the dream of tree species, we will be able towait until that day, the sun is shining, shining on us on the green leaves offlashing bright green light.
Today i am very glad to be here to share with you my ideas of success. what is success? It is what everyone is longing for.sometimes success would be rather simple. Winning a game is success; getting a high grade in the exam is success; Making a new friend is success; Even now i am standing here giving my speech is somehow also success.
However, as a person's whole life is concerned, success becomes very complicated. is fortune success? Is fame success? Is high social status success? No, i don’t think so. believe success is the realization of people's hopes and ideals.Nowadays, in the modern society there are many people who are regarded as the successful. And the most obvious characteristics of them are money, high position and luxurious life. So most people believe that s success and all that they do is for this purpose. But the problem is wether it is real success. we all know there are always more money, higher position and better condition in front of us. If we keep chasing them, where is the end? What will satisfy us at last? Therefore, we can see, to get the real success we must need something inside, which is the realization of people's hopes and ideals.
Different people have different ideas about success; Cause people's hopes and ideas vary from one another. But i am sure every success is dear to everybody, cause it is not easy to come by, cause in the process of our striving for success, we got both our body and soul tempted, meanwhile we are enlightened by the most valuable qualities of human beings: love, patient, courage and sense of responsibility. These are the best treasures. so now i am very proud that i have this opportunity to stand here speaking to all of you. it is my success, cause i raise up to challenge my hope.
What is success? Everyone has his own interpretation as i do. But i am sure every success leads to an ever-brighter future. So ladies and gentlemen, believe in our hopes, believe in ourselves, we, every one of us, can make a successful life!
Wish you all good success!
I love spring, I love flowers, everything glorious spring, love motherland thriving spring.
Spring girl walked with light steps that came to us, she brings us a burst of cool breeze. Spring girl give us bring the brilliant sunshine, sometimes we have to bring in the thin rain, the earth washed clean, so that the seedlings in the field, drink eat eat, also let small seedlings to drink in full.
Spring girl came to the garden, when an artist, the flowers painted colorful: yellow, red, white, blue, with pink, flower scrambling to show valve spits core, powder like Xia, white as snow, red like fire: you see the bushes in full bloom of Phalaenopsis, like countless butterflies, let a person are not clear exactly where is the flower, where is the butterfly. The grass green, seemed to put my clothes are green.
The weather is warm spring girl. People take off the thick winter clothes have to go out and do something you love -- our children go to school, people go to work, old people is in the square, the park activities bones, doing all kinds of sports. Accompanied by the spring breeze of March 5th, a lot of "Lei Feng" appeared in the streets, help the cache, to help repair the clock, to help diagnose a disease of the elderly, propaganda of all kinds of knowledge... "Lei Feng" are busy doing all kinds of things, civilization in the breeze to thousands of households.
Beautiful spring ah! Jing Mei, Wumart, learn from Lei Feng to do good people more beautiful!
I recently started a new job, in a small office, where four of us share that fridge is a Brita water filter of my coworkerscomplained the water tasted "dirty" went on for a few days, and she wasstunned I could drink the water without any trouble.I started to doubt my tastebuds, but the water really tasted fine.
最近我找了份新工作，是在一间小办公室里，我们四个人共用一个冰箱。冰箱里有一个Brita牌滤水壶，有一个同事抱怨说水喝起来感觉很“脏”，她连续抱怨了几天，还很震惊我喝这样的水竟然没事。我开始怀疑自己的味蕾出问题了，但我真觉着水喝着还不错。
Finally, she figured out the problem was actually her simplyforgot to clean it, and after awhile started to affect the water inside leaned her cup, and drank the water with no problem.
最后，她发现问题出在了她的杯子上，她只是忘了刷杯子，过一段时间就影响里面水的味道了。她把杯子洗干净了，水就没有异味了。
I can't help but think about the world we live often we quicklyblame other people, other things, anything else but ourselves."You're racist"."You're intolerant"."You're the problem" world isn't perfect, I know, butI think we should take a step back sometimes and ask ourselves some toughquestions.
我禁不住思考了我们生活的世界，我们总是急于责备其他人、其他事、除了自己之外的一切东西。“你有种族歧视”、“你太狭隘”、“是你的问题”，我知道世界并不完美，但我认为有时我们应该退一步，问自己几个很难回答的问题。
Can I be better? Is my heart really pure? Can I help this situation withkindness?
我能变得更好吗?我的心真的纯洁吗?我能带着善意解决问题吗?
I want to tell you this; please clean your use when you do, thewater will taste much better.I promise you this.
我想告诉你这个道理：请洗干净自己的杯子。因为只有你把杯子洗干净了，里面的水味道才会好，我保证。
There were two little dogs in a village . There was a thousand-mirror housenear the village.One day ,one dog went to the house ,stood at the door and lookat the mirrors and there were a thousand dogs in them .Then it bit at them andthey bit at it too .So it went back to the village and it told the people thehouse was bad .
The other dog visited the house .It smiled at the mirrors and the dogs inthe mirrors smiled at it too .So it was happy and told the people the house wasreally good.
有两只狗在村。有一个千镜屋在村附近。有一天，一只狗走到屋子里，站在门口，看着镜子还有一千条狗在他们。然后它咬他们，咬它。所以它回到村里，它告诉人们，房子是坏的。
另外一只狗参观了房子。它对着镜子和狗在镜子笑过。所以很高兴，告诉人们这房子真的很好。
Dear audience and judges,
My topic is "Can money buy happiness".
As we all know, money can buy all the goods in our life, no matter how huge it is. A spaceship, for example, if you really feel your bank account can afford it.
However, when it comes to love, satisfaction, happiness and many other human feelings, it is completely not like this. The result of many recent research can support my point. They said that, though people received far more money than ever, their standard for happiness also rised. That means, if you had one yuan, a car might be your dream, but if you had one million, you might consider owning a space trip. So when people always hope for those they can not afford, they will push themselves to an unhappy
Anyhow, money equal wealthy in life but not happiness in mind. Only by changing our attitude to money and enjoying every day, can we obtain a truely happy future!
The future can be anything we want to make
I do not know who wrote those words, but I have always liked them as areminder that the future can be anything we want to make it.
We can take the mysterious, hazy future and carve out of it anything thatwe can imagine, just like a sculptor carves a statue from a shapeless stone.
We are all in the position of the farmer. If we plant a good seed, we reapa good harvest. If our seed is poor and full of weeds, we reap a useless crop.If we plant nothing at all, we harvest nothing at all.
I want the future to be better than the past. I don’t want it contaminatedby the mistakes and errors with which history is filled. We should all beconcerned about the future because that is where we will spend the reminder ofour lives.
The past is gone and static. Nothing we can do will change it. The futureis before us and dynamic. Everything we do will effect it.
Each day will brings with it new frontiers, in our homes and in ourbusinesses, if we will only recognize them. We are just at the beginning of theprogress in every field of human endeavor.
As we all know, "Failure is the mother of success." But few people canreally understand what the saying the world, I am sure that no onedare say he hasn't met any trouble all his we must face ct, failure is not fearful, but important thing is how to face it ng failure, people will never take their fate lying will try theirbest to work harder and harder until at last they succeed.
Not being courageous to face setbacks, people have no chance to enjoy thepleasure of they have nothing to do but feel sad and empty all dayand all fact, they lose the chance of friend,whenever in trouble, please remember, "Failure is the mother of success."
you can do it !you could be the one!whatever trouble you met how terribleit was,you just think that all will be all right,there is no things isimportance in the se believe you often complain of theterrible thigs you suffe in the trouble,so you can not happy and have a your life's golf will be not life won't must have the surely mind,and do it by the plan dy dontlike confident people,the most importance point is you have it,everything you do it will be succeful!
各位老师、领导们：
大家好！
两年前，我从英语教育院校毕业，踌躇满志地从大学校门里走出来，满怀信心地踏进了这满是孩子们的天堂。在我开始接任四年级二班的英语教程那一刻，我的心情忐忑不安，不知能否把课上好，当我真正走上工作岗位，走上四二班教室的讲台时，面对一个个鲜活可爱的面孔，面对一双双求知的眼睛，我总是一次次默默的告诉自己，要努力，要加油，要成为深受学生欢迎的好老师。
有人说儿童是一本书虽然要读懂这本书并非易事，但要成为一位出色的教师就必须去读它，有人说，儿童是花木，教师是园丁，园丁悉心照料着花木，但需要尊重它们自然地成长。实际上，儿童比花木要复杂的多，教师的工作比园丁的工作也复杂的多，尽管他们拥有着共同或共通的规律。法国文学家雨果在他的诗里曾经写到：“花是尊贵的，果实是甜美的，让我们都来做叶吧，因为叶，是平凡而谦逊的。”我觉得这首诗就是为教师写的，因为教师就像那默默奉献的绿叶，时时刻刻衬托着鲜花的娇艳。今天，在庆祝教师节的日子里，我荣幸地站上这方讲台，诵读这样意味深长的诗句，即将开始我至真至诚的讲述，我心中无比激动，也感到万分的'骄傲自豪。
时光匆匆，转眼间我已走过了四年的从教生涯。虽然在大家看来这段时间有些短暂。但细数往昔岁月的点点滴滴，我还是要长叹：生活原来给了我们那么多感动。为了这真情付出后得到的感动，我一直在追求着。刚刚参加工作时，信心百倍。记得第一次以教师的身份走进课堂，感觉一切都是那样美好。然而，醉酒方知酒味浓，为师才知为师难。一段时间之后，我先前良好的自我感觉早就一扫而空，面对一群求知欲渴的孩子们，我才真正意识到教师职业是何等的艰辛和琐碎，三尺讲台站上去容易，要站好可真难啊！
每个人都希望自己的人生风和日丽，莺歌燕舞。但月有阴晴圆缺，人有旦夕祸福，挫折和失败总是不断地踩痛我们的心。我们是把失意的怨气撒在孩子身上，还是收起此时内心的苦楚用微笑面对纯真可爱的孩子？我想没有人愿意选择前者，因为你的心中有爱！鲁迅先生有句话“教育是植根与爱的”。是的，爱是教育的源泉，教师有了爱，才会用伯乐的眼光去发现孩子们的闪光点，才会对自己的教育对象充满了信心和爱心，才会有追求卓越的精神和创新的精神。
今天，我是一名小学英语教师，爱我的学生，我会像母亲一样无私和不求索取；爱我的学生，我会像手足一样把心和他们贴得更近；爱我的学生，我会像朋友一样与他们风雨同舟；爱我的学生，我会不溺爱不袒护，在他们跌倒时，鼓励他们勇敢的站起来！我相信“人民教师”这光荣而神圣的称谓，它总能让我拥有无穷的力量。
谢谢大家！
This is a glass of water, tasteless, right? However if you add sugar, itwill taste sweet, but if you add vinegar, it will become same istrue with our life the flavor is created by our choices.
If kindness is added to a strange you will have a friend; but if hostilityis added, you will have an love is added to a pile of red bricks youwill have a home, but if hatred is add to those bricks , you will have anconcentration camp.
So my dear friends, never complain that life is boring and the world don’t like the taste of your life, change the ingredients.
Three year ago, I weighed more than 100 hundred kilograms which causedsignificant embarrassment and frustration in my always failing my minations, like always being laughed at by girls, like being terrified tospeak in was my grandmother’s encouragement that revived from mypassive attitude to become confident in said “ My dear, if you can’tchange you figure, why not treat it as your own I began to cautiouslyemploy the new way of choosing to change my outlook on life, Ideveloped the confidence to make a difference and finally I found a totally newworld.
So my dear friend, if faith, hope, love, endurance are added to your life,you will find the confidence to conquer your limitation and embrace hopefully with my speech included, you will have a fantasticspeech contest.
We have only one now,the environment becomes worse and u know,there's no enough clean water for many of them lose theirlives because of a lot of countries,people have to cut trees there's nothing to keep water from running we have pollutedthe land,the river and the people may say:we are the masters the "master" seems to be confronted with problems that are far beyondhis control.
the holes of the ozone layer make the earth less suitable to live for somecreatures including human ng all the disasters made by ourselves,wehave the responsibility to deal with the problem.
we must do something useful to protect our can plant treesand take good care of can save the water and ask our parents to do n't throw any litter onto the ground and we should collect them we take good care of our earth today,it will be more beautifultomorrow.
The classmate of everyone, teacher: hello! Today, I want to lecture on the topic of "my ideal".
Each person, has a very different ideal. If a person has no ideal, just like sailing on the sea ship didn't sail, so, a person's ideal is extremely important. In our students, some people want to be a teacher; Some people want to be a doctor; Some people want to be a police; Some people want to be the boss... And my ideal is when a famous writer, with small pen to write a good article.
Why do I want to be a good writer? Because people in the joys and sorrows of life, can bring endless sigh. And write a good article is long and difficult, because to modify more, many somes of literary grace. When oneself hard to write a good article, is everyone admired, and confidence to myself a lot of, feel is worth for the hard writing before, but no sweet without sweat.
Of course, we are all love fantasy of his own bright future. And some of the students, just simply fantasy, no to ideal. I think, for their own ideals and efforts. I know the way the writer, the likelihood is rough, and is a famous writer? Therefore, I will study hard since I was a child, when the writer to lay a solid foundation for the future.
I know that when the writer, the first to write articles have literary grace. So, I'm going to this, we had a good word when reading, see the beautiful words, do not hesitate to extract. Often took a look at and read it. Over time, just record in your mind deeply, literary grace is much a few minutes.
I also know that being a writer, "in the original life, above life", so I have also prepared a diary. Take out every night, just record the meaningful or interesting things. It's okay when double, can recall memories of the past, and write a composition, take out can also reference reference, better material into writing.
A small poem, a short article, is is my childhood "little writers" little trace. And writing on "little writers" can add a lot of light. So, I will go forward to the front of the unknown, big step. Remember my ideal, struggle for it!
In the pitch-black night, stung by jellyfish, choking on salt water,singing to herself, hallucinating, Diana Nyad just kept on swimming. And thatshow she finally achieved her lifetime goal as an athlete, an extreme 100-mileswim from Cuba to Florida, at age 64. Hear her story.
Its the fifth time Diana Nyad stand on the Cuban shore believing again thatshe’s going to make it all the way across that vast, dangerous wilderness of anocean.
Life is about the journey, but not really the destination. Weve been on ajourney. Lets face it, were all on a one-way street. What are we going to do aswe go forward to have no regrets looking backTeddy Roosevelt quote was floatingaround in her brain over the past years in training. It says, "You go ahead andsit back in your comfortable chair as a critic or an observer, while the braveone gets in the ring, engages, gets bloody and dirty, and fails over and overand over again. Yet he isnt afraid or timid and lives life in a bold way." Whenyou achieve your dreams, its not so much what you get as who you have become inachieving them.
You have a dream and obstacles in front of you as we all do. None of usever get through this life without heartache, without turmoil. Believe inperseverance and have faith. Get back up again when you can get knocked down andyou will find your way.
"I have three messages," said the breathless Nyad. “The first is we shouldnever ever give up. The second is you are never too old to chase your dreams.And the third is that it looks like the most solitary endeavor in the world butit takes a team.”
Hellen Keller said, “Although the world is full of suffering, it is fullalso of the overcoming of it.” People always fail because they stop trying, notbecause they encounter the unbeatable difficulties. "Never, never give up" meansto keep trying and never stop working for your goals. I think it’s a very goodpiece of advice for all of us and this is the most important thing that can helpus to achieve our goals.
I am quite sure that everybody knows Thomas Edison. Why so many peopletried to invent the electric lamp, but only Thomas Edison succeedIf Edison, likemany others, had been stilted by repeated failures, there would be no vibrantmodern cities at night. His success proves that if a person is not scared byseemingly insurmountable adversity, he can find the way to success..
In my opinion, never stop working for your goal doesn’t mean you must besuccessful. It doesnt even mean that you must achieve your goal, but its veryimportant to keep it in your mind. There are enough unfavorable conditions whichmake our lives difficult, but what important for us is to make efforts towardsyour goal or your dream. If you have given your best for your goal or yourdream, whether you succeed or not, at least you wont leave any regret in yourlife.
Dont give up working for your goal or your dream. If you succeed, you willtaste great joy in your life. If you dont succeed, you wont have regret in yourlife because you have given your best.
Dreams are hard to follow, hold on and there will be tomorrow. You willfind the way with the strength to carry on. Don’t give up.
Nothing succeeds like confidence.When you are truly confident,it radiatesfrom you like sunlight,and attracts success to you like amagnet.
It's important to believe in yourself.Believe that you can do it under anycircumstances,because if you believe you can,then you really will.The beliefkeeps you searching for answers,which means that pretty soon you will getthem.
Confidence is more than an attitude. It comes from knowing exactly whereyou are going and exactly how you are going to get there. It comes from actingwith integrity and confidence.It comes from a strong sense of purpose.It comesfrom a strong commitment to take responsibility,rather than just letting lifehappen.
One way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and to get arecord of successful experiences behind you.
Confidence is compassionate and understanding.It is not arrogant. Arroganceis born out of fear and insecurity,while confidence comes from strength andintegrity.
Confidence is not just believing you can do it. Confidence is knowing youcan do it.Know that you are capable of accomplish anything you want,and liveyour life withconfidence.
Anything can be achieved through focused,determined effort andself-confidence.If your life is not what you want it to be,you have the power tochange it,and you must make the changes on a moment by moment basis. Live yourpriorities. Live with your goals and your plan of action. Live each moment withyour priorities in mind. Act with your own purpose,and you will have the lifeyouwant.
Confidence,which is not only the faith in your abilities, but also the faith of pursuit of firm target in yourself, is the first secret of success. With it, you can go toward the shore of victory. When at a low ebb of the Chinese revolution, Mao Zedong believed that "a single spark can start a prairie fire". ChenYi believed "repeated action can not take off" he was confident. In short,
self-confidence refers to the navigation towards victory, as is the driving force of progress.
Inferior tends to look at the advantages of others too much, overweight, and this is a lack of understanding of their strengths. Someone who has so heavy psychological pressure makes himself passive. Inferior psychological barrier limits the development of ability, making them lose the chance of success, ultimately nothing. Humble and out of the shadow, there must be sunny days ahead! In both the "thousand goddess of mercy" dancing miracle of the spotlight, the actors are in the faith and destiny of the strong, overcoming the inferiority, their performance won the audience's warm applause, deeply loved by people. Overcoming self-abased and developing confidence is our inevitable choice. Conceit and inferiority are extreme psychological. Swellheads smug after some achievements, even defiant, arrogance. These people even had made some
achievements, but it was just a flash in the pan. Xiang yu in the struggle played
a great role，but temporary military advantage made him blind. The results had been defeated by Liu Bang, the former hero. At last Xiang Yu committed suicide by Wujiang river .
We want to believe in ourselves, but not conceited. I do not give up. Choose confidence, overcome being self-abased, and being away from the ego, which is the requirement of the new century, and is the pursuit of perfect personality. "Talk about heroes, you can find someone today", MAO Zedong was full of self-confidence, who will always inspire us to move forward.
as you slowly open your eyes, look around , notice where the light comes into your room; listen carefully, see if there are new sounds you can recognize; feel with your body and spirit, and see if you can sense the freshness in the air. yes, yes, yes, it’s a new day, it’s a different day, and it’s a bright day! and most
importantly, it is a new beginning for your life, a beginning where you are going to make new desicisions, take new actions, make new friends, and take your life to a totally unprecedented level! you know all this is real as long as you are confident,passionate and committed! and you are confident, you are passionate, you are committed!
you will no longer fear making new sounds, showing new facial expressions, using your body in new ways,approaching new people, and asking new questions. you will live every single day of your life with absolute passion, and you will show your passion through the words you speak and the actions you take. you will focus all your time and effort on the most important goals of your life. you will never succumb to challenges of hardships. you will never waver in your pursuit of excellence. after all,you are the best, and you deserve the best!
as your coach and friend, i can assure you the door to all the best things in the world will open to you, but the key to that door is in your hand. you must do your part, you must faithfully follow
the plans you make and take the actions you plan, you must never quit, you must never fear. i know you must do it, you can do it, you will do it, and you will succeed!
now stand firm and tall, make a fist, get excited, and yell it out: i must do it! i can do it! i will do it! i will succeed! i must do it! i can do it! i will do it! i will succeed! i must do it! i can do it! i will do it! i will succeed!
good evening , ladies and gentlemen . i am joy and glad to give you a speech about stress , yes , just the topic you see on the screen.
psychologist tell us that stress is a state of worry caused by the problem of living , such as too much work or study , heavy responsibilities , and quickened pace of life .
statistics show that stress comes from every detail in our life . financial problems , poor health , being laid off may be the stress that most adults now suffering . as students in the university , we are also under our special stress . while study , having to take various tests and submit a project against a deadline may put a great pressure on us . and the things make us felt stressed may be our parents’s greater expectations on us than we could reach . later , when we are likely to graduate , some other problems will also annoy us . i think we will worry a lot about our ability to compete in the job market and how we can best use what we’ve learned at college in our future job .
my brother-in-law opened the bottom drawer of my sisters bureau and lifted out a tissue-wrapped package. this, he said, is not a slip. this is lingerie. he discarded the tissue and handed me the slip.
it was exquisite, silk, handmade and trimmed with a cobweb of lace. the price tag with an astronomical figure on it was still attached.
jan bought this the first time we went to new york, at least 8 or 9 years ago. she never wore it. she was saving it for a special occasion.
well, i guess this is the occasion.
he took the slip from me and put it on the bed, with the other clothes we were taking to the mortician. his hands lingered on the soft material for a moment, then he slammed the drawer shut and turned to me, dont ever save anything for a special occasion. every day you re alive is a special occasion.
i remembered those words through the funeral and the days that followed when i helped him and my niece attend to all the sad chores that follow an unexpected death. i thought about them on the plane returning to california from the midwestern town where my sisters family lives. i thought about all the things that she hadnt seen or heard or done. i thought about the things that she had done without realizing that they were special.
im still thinking about his words, and theyve changed the weeds in the garden. im spending more time with my family and friends and less time in committee meetings. whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experience to savour, not endure. im trying to recognize these moment now and cherish them.
im not saving anything; we use our good china and crystal for every special. event such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, the first camellia blossom… i wear my good blazer to the market if i feel like it. my theory is if i look prosperous, i can shell out $28. 49 for one small bag of groceries without wincing. im not saving my good perfume for special parties s; clerks in hardware stores and tellers in banks have noses that function as well as my party going friends.
someday and one of these days are losing their grip on my vocabulary. if its worth seeing or hearing or doing, i want to see and hear and do it now. im not sure what my sister wouldve done had she know that she wouldnt be here for the tomorrow we all take for granted.
i think she would have called family members and a few close friends. she might have called a few former friends to apologize, and mend fences for past squabbles. i like to think she would have gone out for a chinese dinner, her favorite food. im guessing. ill never know.
its those little things left undone that would make me angry if i knew that my hours were limited. angry because i put off seeing good friends whom i was going to get in touch with someday. angry because i hadnt written certain letters that i intended to write one of these days. angry and sorry that i didnt tell my husband and daughter often enough how much i truly love them.
im trying very hard not to put off, hold back, or save anything that would add laughter and luster to our lives. and every morning when i open my eyes, i tell myself that every day, every minute, every breath truly, is... a gift from god.
ladies and gentlemen , good afternoon! i’m very glad to stand here and give you a short speech. today my topic is “youth”. i hope you will like it , and found the importance in your youth so that more cherish it.
first i want to ask you some questions:
1、do you know what is youth?
2、how do you master your youth?
youth
youth is not a time of life, it is a state of mind ; it is not rosy cheeks , red lips and supple knees, it is a matter of the emotions : it is the freshness ; it is the freshness of the deep springs of life .
youth means a temperamental predominance of courage over timidity of the appetite , for adventure over the love of ease. this often exists in a man of 60 more than a boy of 20 . nobody grows old merely by a number of years . we grow old by deserting our ideals.
years wrinkle the skin , but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul . worry , fear , self –distrust bows the heart and turns the spirit back to dust .
whether 60 of 16 , there is in every human being ‘s heart the lure of wonders, the unfailing childlike appetite of what’s next and the joy of the game of living . in the center of your heart and my heart there’s a wireless station : so long as it receives messages of beauty , hope ,cheer, courage and power from men and from the infinite, so long as you are young .
when the aerials are down , and your spirit is covered with snows of cynicism and the ice of pessimism, then you are grown old ,even at 20 , but as long as your aerials are up ,to catch waves of optimism , there is hope you may die young at 80.
thank you!
Dear teachers and students
hello everyone!
In our real life, everyone will have a successful experience, but also have the bitter experience of failure. When we succeed, we will have a bright smile on our face; When encountering setbacks, some fail, others are striving to advance and face difficulties. How should we face the success and failure of learning and life for our students?
This leads to the theme I am going to talk about today: "win not arrogant, lose and not be discouraged". The ancients once said: "the winner is not proud, the loser is not discouraged." What you say is this principle. When you have made great efforts to achieve success, you must not be complacent, proud of the world and have no one in mind. Instead, you should summarize the successful experience, work hard to achieve higher and better goals; When you encounter setbacks and failures, you must never lose heart and hurt, break the jar and break. Instead, you should carefully check your own things, find out the reasons and summarize them constantly, and then you will go from a failure to success. Failure is not terrible, and what is terrible is that we cannot realize our own shortcomings from it.
We often say "failure is the mother of success", which is the road to success. Sometimes failure is inevitable. Is Edison, the great inventor, not only successful after numerous failures? After countless failures - success, in success, the electric light was invented. Edison is like this. Liu Xiang, the Athens Olympic champion, also has won such a remarkable achievement after countless failures, and achieved the breakthrough of Asian sprinting gold medal zero, and won light for Chinese and Asian people! But we should learn from the failure constantly, learn from the successful people, and realize that failure is temporary from the psychological point of view. As long as you can adjust your mind and find out the problem, and add your hard work, you will surely get the result of your satisfaction.
We have just carried out the mid-term examination. Because of the different foundation of each student, some students have achieved excellent results through their own efforts, while some students feel that their achievements are not ideal and fail to achieve their goals. In this way, there are two kinds of mentality students. Students who have been well tested will be happy and encouraged, but they must not be proud and continue to move forward; Students who are not rational in the exam should not be pessimistic and disappointed. If they find out the missing, they will eventually get excellent results. I want to tell you that the examination is only a means of testing. It reflects the degree of knowledge you have learned since the beginning of school. The score can only represent the past and not the future. As long as you can analyze the reasons of your failure from the examination, summarize your shortcomings, I believe that you will be the top in the future examination.
In our daily study and life, we should keep a good mentality, and achieve victory without pride and failure. I sincerely hope that every student, in the future study, should overcome the difficulties in learning, learn difficulties, climb the peak bravely, strive to achieve: before class, we should carefully preview, prepare the necessary learning supplies; In class, we should think positively, speak boldly, ask if you don't understand it; After class, we should review them in time and finish the class and homework assigned by teachers. The work should be written in a neat manner, and the work should be completed independently. The work should be as good as possible and the mistakes should be corrected immediately. We firmly believe that as long as the students try to do it, the final exam will certainly get excellent results.
Win not arrogant, lose not discouraged. Let us always keep a heart of struggle, summarize today's success and failure, look forward to tomorrow's glory, after all of our hard work and hard work, we believe that we can achieve their ideal other shore.
Remember: "win not arrogant, lose not discouraged," this famous saying, believe it will bring great encouragement and help to your life.
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude to me is more important than facts.
It is more important than the past,than education,than money,than circumstances, than failures,than successes,than what the other people think,say,or do. It is more important than the appearance,the giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company,a church ,a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day, regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
We cannot change our past.We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one stage we have.And that is our attitudes. I am convinced that life is ten percent what happens to me ,and ninety percent how I react to it.And so it is with you.
We are in charge of our attitudes.
We study in a beautiful school,since the day I came here I have began to love her.
Flowers and trees are the most beautiful things in our school.No matter where you are,you can smell the clean air in our school,when you are tired you also can sit on the chail under the big tree.suddenly you will feel so cool,and at that time you must lose youself in enjoying it.
And there are also many many good teachers in our school,they teach us so carefully in each calss,and when you meet hard problem they won't stop telling until you understand.So we often have good markes in the examnations.
Oh sure the students here are the best, we study hard and live together happily,here you never can see we quarry with each other and hit each other because here is a big warm family.
So many things I will say,but the most important thing is that you come here ,I think you must love our school.Because everyone here loves it!
"We are reading the first verse of the first chapter of a book whose pagesare infinite---"
I do not know who wrote those words,but I have always liked them as areminder that the future can be anything we want to make it.We can take themysterious,hazy future and carve out of it anything that we can imagine,justlike a sculptor carves a statue from a shapeless stone.
We are all in the position of the farmer.If we plant a good seed,we reap agood harvest.If our seed is poor and full of weeds,we reap a useless crop.If weplant nothing at all,we harvest nothing at all.
I want the future to be better than the past.I don't want it contaminatedby the mistakes and errors with which history is filled.We should all beconcerned about the future because that is where we will spend the reminder ofour lives.
The past is gone and static.Nothing we can do will change it.The future isbefore us and dynamic.Everything we do will effect it.Each day will brings withit new frontiers,in our homes and in our businesses,if we will only recognizethem.We are just at the beginning of the progress in every field of humanendeavor.
“我们正在阅读一本页数无限的书的第一章的第一节……”
我不知道这段文字是谁写的,我一直很喜欢并用它们来提醒自己,那就是未来操之在我。我们可以掌握神秘而不可知的未来，从中创出我们所能想象的任何东西，一如雕刻家可以将未成型的石头刻出雕像一样。
我们每个人都是农夫，我们若种下好种子,就会有丰收，倘若种子长得不良且长满杂草,我们就会徒劳无获，如果我们什么也不种,就根本不会有什么收获。
我希望未来会比过去更好。我不希望未来会被那些充斥在历史中的错误所污染，我们应关心未来,因为往后的余生都要在未来中度过。
往昔已一去不复返而且是静止的，任凭我们怎么努力都不能改变过去，未来就在我们眼前而且是动态的.我们的所作所为都会影响未来，只要我们体会的出来,每天都可以发现新的知识领域伴随而生，可能是在家里,也可能是在我们的事业中，我们正处在人类所努力钻研的每个领域中进步的起点。
Good morning! Ladies and Gentlemen,Today, Im so glad to come here. Its my honor to give the speech. Im He Tingting, coming from ABa Tibet and Qiang Autonomous Prefecture. As a Qiang girl. I welcome you to our hometown. Now Ill talk about my dream.
My hometown is a remote, lonely village, with verdant mountains and clean streams, full of fresh air… The sur-roundings is quiet and graceful. What a wonderful sight!But Im sorry to say its so poor, so backward. One day in a late autumn, my parents and I went back there together, in order to call on my grandfather being ill. Getting off the bus, slowly we walked hard towards my hometown along a narrow winding path. Suddenly, the hap-py laughter of children interested me. I looked around, and caught sight of some children playing, aged 8-9. It seemed they were free from care. I went up to them, and
asked, " Why arent you at school now? Are you on leave?" One boy stood up and said sadly, " We dont have any teachers, No teachers teach us. Two years ago, we had a teacher from a city. But only two weeks later he went away. From then on, no teacher comes here any more. Also we have no school to attend here."
"Why dont you go to the city to study?" I asked. "My parents are both farmers, we havent enough money." He stopped for a moment, and then continued, "We really hope for school." After hearing that, I couldnt say a word with a heavy heart.
Later, I thought it over for a long time. Thats the childrens fault? No. Thats their parents fault with no money? No. But I don’t really understand why.
If they could be at school like me. How wonderful it is. However, in fact they couldn’t be. What can I do for them?
Facing the children unable to go to school;
Facing the poverty of minority nationality regions;
Facing all these facts， suddenly, a bright idea struck me. From that moment, I have a dream, a splendid dream!
I dream, one day, I will be able to be a teacher and return to my hometown. Ill try my best to let the children in-to the school, into the classroom. Ill teach them to read and teach them to write,with my patience, with my love, hon-estly. Ill turn them into the persons with a lot of knowledge.
I dream, one day, I can set up a school for children by myself;let these children enter the school. Of cause Ill hope to set up schools as many as I can, to let all the children enter the school.
Also, I dream, one day, the students I teach will graduate from universities and take heavy responsibilities of building our hometown, building our motherland.
I dream, one day, all these will come true. And my hometown will become richer and richer, more and more beautiful.
Thats my dream. Iu return to my mother school with my faith. Having this belief, Iu value the time, every hour, every minute,every second. Ill study each lesson well, and lay the foundation,in order to realize the hope of childrens attending school, seeking for knowledge.
Having this belief, Iu break up a new path to achieve the goal.
Having this belief, Il1 have enough courage to change all the bad situation.
I believe that my dream will turn into reality.
As you all know, some years ago, we had a Hope Project, a lot of children have already returned to the school grounds.
We all know, our government decides to develop the western area.
Our ent decides to develop areas in-habited by the minority nationalities. Especially, Our government decides to develop the education.
And I know, a lot of people in and out of our prefecture are working hard at it. Everyone is trying to contrib
Every day of your life, it is important to take the time to “smell the roses” — to appreciate the experiences that lead to happiness. This is part of being truly happy.
Happiness is a state of mind. It starts with accepting where you are, knowing where you are going and planning to enjoy every moment along the way. You know how to be happy, and feel that you have enough time or money or love or whatever you need to achieve your goals. And just feeling that you have enough of everything means that you do indeed have enough.
You have to choose to be happy, and focus upon being happy, in order to be happy. If you instead focus upon knowing that you will be happy if you achieve something, you will never be happy, as you have not learned to “smell the roses”. The irony is that when you are happy, you are inevitably more productive, and far more likely to achieve what everything-seekers are seeking.
My Dreams:
Ladies and Gentlemen , Good afternoon! I’m very glad to stand here and give you a short speech. today my topic is “youth”. I hope you will like it .
I want to be a teacher when I listen to my teacher carefully. I think I can be a teacher when I grow up. I can help many students learn things well. I can play with my students, too. So we are good friends. I want to be a doctor when I see many doctors save their patients. To be a doctor is really great. I think I can be a doctor when I grow up. Then I can help many people out of danger. I will be the happiest girl in the world. I want to be a reporter when I watch TV every evening. We can get lots of important information from them. They make the world smaller and also make us happy. I would like to be a reporter when I grow up. And I can learn a lot about China and the other countries around the world. I can meet many superstars as well. I have lots of dreams. I think my dreams can come true one day, because there’s an old saying “where there is a will, there is a way.”
When I was in my 20s， I saw my very first psychotherapy client。 I was a Ph。D。 student in clinical psychology at Berkeley。 She was a 26—year—old woman named Alex。 Now Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top， and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems。 Now when I heard this， I was so relieved。 My classmate got an arsonist for her first client。 （Laughter） And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys。 This I thought I could handle。
But I didn't handle it。 With the funny stories that Alex would bring to session， it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road。 "Thirty's the new 20，" Alex would say， and as far as I could tell， she was right。 Work happened later， marriage happened later， kids happened later， even death happened later。 Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time。
But before long， my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her love life。 I pushed back。
I said， "Sure， she's dating down， she's sleeping with a knucklehead， but it's not like she's going to marry the guy。"
And then my supervisor said， "Not yet， but she might marry the next one。 Besides， the best time to work on Alex's marriage is before she has one。"
That's what psychologists call an "Aha！" moment。 That was the moment I realized， 30 is not the new 20。 Yes， people settle down later than they used to， but that didn't make Alex's 20s a developmental downtime。 That made Alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot， and we were sitting there blowing it。 That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem， and it had real consequences， not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere。
There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States right now。 We're talking about 15 percent of the population， or 100 percent if you consider that no one's getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first。
Raise your hand if you're in your 20s。 I really want to see some twentysomethings here。 Oh， yay！ Y'all's awesome。 If you work with twentysomethings， you love a twentysomething， you're losing sleep over twentysomethings， I want to see — Okay。 Awesome， twentysomethings really matter。
So I specialize in twentysomethings because I believe that every single one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists， sociologists， neurologists and fertility specialists already know： that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest， yet most transformative， things you can do for work， for love， for your happiness， maybe even for the world。
This is not my opinion。 These are the facts。 We know that 80 percent of life's most defining moments take place by age 35。 That means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experiences and "Aha！" moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid—30s。 People who are over 40， don't panic。 This crowd is going to be fine， I think。 We know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you're going to earn。 We know that more than half of Americans are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30。 We know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood， which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself， now is the time to change it。 We know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life， and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28， and things get tricky after age 35。 So your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options。
So when we think about child development， we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain。 It's a time when your ordinary， day—to—day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become。 But what we hear less about is that there's such a thing as adult development， and our 20s are that critical period of adult development。
But this isn't what twentysomethings are hearing。 Newspapers talk about the changing timetable of adulthood。 Researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence。 Journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like "twixters" and "kidults。" It's true。 As a culture， we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood。
Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things， you need a plan and not quite enough time。 Isn't that true？ So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say， "You have 10 extra years to start your life"？ Nothing happens。 You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition， and absolutely nothing happens。
And then every day， smart， interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this： "I know my boyfriend's no good for me， but this relationship doesn't count。 I'm just killing time。" Or they say， "Everybody says as long as I get started on a career by the time I'm 30， I'll be fine。"
But then it starts to sound like this： "My 20s are almost over， and I have nothing to show for myself。 I had a better résumé the day after I graduated from college。"
And then it starts to sound like this： "Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs。 Everybody was running around and having fun， but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down。 I didn't want to be the only one left standing up， so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30。"
Where are the twentysomethings here？ Do not do that。
Okay， now that sounds a little flip， but make no mistake， the stakes are very high。 When a lot has been pushed to your 30s， there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump—start a career， pick a city， partner up， and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time。 Many of these things are incompatible， and as research is just starting to show， simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s。
The post—millennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car。 It's realizing you can't have that career you now want。 It's realizing you can't have that child you now want， or you can't give your child a sibling。 Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves， and at me， sitting across the room， and say about their 20s， "What was I doing？ What was I thinking？"
I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking。
Here's a story about how that can go。 It's a story about a woman named Emma。 At 25， Emma came to my office because she was， in her words， having an identity crisis。 She said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment， but she hadn't decided yet， so she'd spent the last few years waiting tables instead。 Because it was cheaper， she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his temper more than his ambition。 And as hard as her 20s were， her early life had been even harder。 She often cried in our sessions， but then would collect herself by saying， "You can't pick your family， but you can pick your friends。"
Well one day， Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap， and she sobbed for most of the hour。 She'd just bought a new address book， and she'd spent the morning filling in her many contacts， but then she'd been left staring at that empty blank that comes after the words "In case of emergency， please call 。。。 。" She was nearly hysterical when she looked at me and said， "Who's going to be there for me if I get in a car wreck？ Who's going to take care of me if I have cancer？"
Now in that moment， it took everything I had not to say， "I will。" But what Emma needed wasn't some therapist who really， really cared。 Emma needed a better life， and I knew this was her chance。 I had learned too much since I first worked with Alex to just sit there while Emma's defining decade went parading by。
So over the next weeks and months， I told Emma three things that every twentysomething， male or female， deserves to hear。
First， I told Emma to forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital。 By get identity capital， I mean do something that adds value to who you are。 Do something that's an investment in who you might want to be next。 I didn't know the future of Emma's career， and no one knows the future of work， but I do know this： Identity capital begets identity capital。 So now is the time for that cross—country job， that internship， that startup you want to try。 I'm not discounting twentysomething exploration here， but I am discounting exploration that's not supposed to count， which， by the way， is not exploration。 That's procrastination。 I told Emma to explore work and make it count。
Second， I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated。 Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport， but twentysomethings who huddle together with like—minded peers limit who they know， what they know， how they think， how they speak， and where they work。 That new piece of capital， that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle。 New things come from what are called our weak ties， our friends of friends of friends。 So yes， half of twentysomethings are un— or under—employed。 But half aren't， and weak ties are how you get yourself into that group。 Half of new jobs are never posted， so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get that un—posted job。 It's not cheating。 It's the science of how information spreads。
Last but not least， Emma believed that you can't pick your family， but you can pick your friends。 Now this was true for her growing up， but as a twentysomething， soon Emma would pick her family when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own。 I told Emma the time to start picking your family is now。 Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20， or even 25， and I agree with you。 But grabbing whoever you're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress。 The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one， and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work。 Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you。
So what happened to Emma？ Well， we went through that address book， and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in another state。 That weak tie helped her get a job there。 That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live—in boyfriend。 Now， five years later， she's a special events planner for museums。 She's married to a man she mindfully chose。 She loves her new career， she loves her new family， and she sent me a card that said， "Now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough。"
Now Emma's story made that sound easy， but that's what I love about working with twentysomethings。 They are so easy to help。 Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX， bound for somewhere west。 Right after takeoff， a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji。 Likewise， at 21 or 25 or even 29， one good conversation， one good break， one good TED Talk， can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come。
So here's an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know。 It's as simple as what I learned to say to Alex。 It's what I now have the privilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day： Thirty is not the new 20， so claim your adulthood， get some identity capital， use your weak ties， pick your family。 Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do。 You're deciding your life right now。 Thank you。
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Life is unfair.
Success is not measured on the days when the sun shines. Success is measured on the dark, stormy, cloudy days.
If you can't absorb failure, you're never gonna meet success.The thing about life is it's not always easy, and you can't always win. Some point of your life, it hits you. It hits you really really hard.
The person you love doesn't love you back, you get fired, you lose a family member. At some point of your life, you're gonna hit rock bottom.
You're paralyzed, you're like, "Why?" And that why can really really destroy you. Once you start asking yourself, "Why me? Why not the others, why me?
I'm actually a good person, I never did something significantly bad, why the hell did it hit me?" Because that's life.
Life is unfair. Success is not measured on the days when the sun shines. Success is measured on the dark, stormy, cloudy days. And if you can't absorb failure, you're never gonna meet success.